Being a single and independent woman sure has its perks but in modern society, it also makes us prone to an unlimited set of questions and assumptions that probably make you want to rip all your hair out at once. What sucks the most about being single isn’t that you’re still out there looking for your special someone; it’s usually what other ‘non-single’ people think about you. So if you’re a woman who works the wee daytime hours away in the office and hates the look married relatives give you when you enter the room, then these are probably some of the assumptions that you have to deal with every day!
1. There’s something wrong with you
No, there isn’t. It’s perfectly fine to be single if you aren’t in the right mind-set for a relationship or haven’t found that special someone yet. If only those sappy couples could understand.
2. You have an easy life with everything sorted out
People assume that if you’re a single working girl then you’ve got everything in your life sorted out. What they don’t understand is that it isn’t just about a job for most of us.
3. You’re too egoistic to go out with just any guy
Most of your relatives and maybe even your parents probably think you’re too ambitious and egoistic to set your sights on a guy who isn’t as up to the mark as you are whether professionally or socially.
4. You sleep around with any guy
If there’s something that we’ve learnt from the movie PINK, it’s that most people consider single women who live alone to be the kind of people who’d have sex with every second guy. If only they knew that you have better things to do than sleep around.
5. You don’t know how to cook
This one obviously doesn’t make sense but it’s what a lot of people believe. If you’re single and independent, then you definitely should be poor at making your own meal.
6. Being a feminist is why you don’t have a boyfriend
What? Do the people out there not know that a lot of guys these days are feminists too. And what’s wrong with being a feminist anyway? You’re only seeking out equality.
7. Your life is sad since you’re alone
What people don’t understand is that being a single woman isn’t the same as being a lonely woman. You’re happy being single and independent, there’s no reason to be sad when you’re the one in control of your own life.
8. You have a conflicted relationship with your parents
Honestly, this doesn’t even make sense, how can being single have anything to do with family relationships?
9. You’re afraid of commitment
Just because you’re single doesn’t mean that you’re afraid of commitment, it just means that you haven’t found the right person or you want to wait. After all, you committed to yourself, didn’t you?
10. You’re only pretending to be happy
Oh c’mon. You can wake up whenever you like, do whatever you want and focus on the things you enjoy doing as well as on yourself. There’s no need to pretend when there are so many reasons to be happy.
11. You have more free time
Definitely a big no. The only reason you might have more time is because you don’t have a boyfriend blowing up your phone, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have other things to get done.
12. You party a lot
Why can’t people understand that being single has nothing to do with partying? In fact, many women don’t even like the intoxicating music that wafts in the air of clubs. And who goes out to party alone, anyway?
13. You’re missing out on a lot
Simply because you don’t want to share your journey of life with a man doesn’t mean you’re missing out in any way. Chances are, you’re probably enjoying your life much more than any of your ‘non-single’ friends.
14. You’ll end up old and alone (or a crazy cat lady)
Just because you’re not with a guy now doesn’t mean you’ll never be. It’s all about waiting to find the right person at the right time. And so what if it turns out to be a cat after all?
15. You might be a lesbian
You probably feel the way Alia’s character did in Dear Zindagi. Just because you’re working and you haven’t decided to marry a guy yet doesn’t mean you’re a lesbian.